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Framing happiness:

Wanting happiness? Making happiness happen is about DOING something. Even if it is asking someone else to do something: — — Fly me to the moon, Let me play among the stars, Let me see what spring is like, On a-Jupiter and Mars... More...

Assertiveness:

Are you grumpy, un- cooperative? Are you silently seething? Are you obviously seething but not saying anything... More...

Boundaries: Boundaries & how we utilise them, inform our sense of self our sense of being, belonging, where-I-end-and-you-begin... More...

Breaking up: How much of your self-esteem is tied up with your partner liking or loving you? Or the perception you think your friends have of you breaking up? Or how much of your self-esteem and self-confidence is invested in being in "a" relationship... no matter what kind as long as you have partner? ... More...

Framing happiness

Wanting happiness? Making happiness happen is about DOING something. Even if it is asking someone else to do something:

Fly me to the moon
Let me play among the stars
Let me see what spring is like
On a-Jupiter and Mars
In other words, hold my hand
In other words, baby , kiss me

Here I will attempt to put happiness in the frame so you can achieve more of it. Whatever it is you decide to do, Just do It as the Nike ad' says. There is much advice given about achieving happiness... all of them involve doing something. Socrates said Know thyself. Albert Einstein: If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things. Happiness is not the absence of problems but the ability to deal with them.

However, there are a few key components that may make the transition from unhappy to happy a little easier.

Kindness

Kindness is an old fashioned word. It is linked to gratitude and niceness. These days, being nice is sometimes seen as being weak and/or pleasing to others. Showing gratitude is often forgotten because a sense of entiltement to happiness or success or riches is assumed and are a right.

Turn this around and consider what it is like to be treated kindly by others. To be with people who are nice and seeing gratitude in the faces of others you are with.

What is often forgotten is how to be kind to ourselves. Many people are overly self critical and many people have a faulty relationship with themselves.

If you pause and take some deep breaths when you recognise negative feelings or feelings of sadness or feelings of being overwhelmed by events—

you will feel better about yourself,
you are more easily able to fairly critique your behaviour, and
you will be happy to correct mistakes you make without overly regretful feelings.

Caring for yourself, gently and kindly and with empathy and understandingb will enhance your wellbeing.

Realism

The realist is able to see ahead things for what they are or what they might be... even if this might be a bad outcome. Our expectations can be our greatest dissappointments. Work with this negative idea in a positive way. Take the idea that something may go wrong. If you are prepared for something other than the best possible outcome you will be streets a head of all the others in the room, the world.

As a pessimist you will probably be allowing the negative feelings you have to overwhelm the facts. By assessing the possibilities in a critically fair way you will overcome the downside of pessimissim and promote positives from the situation.

Soul care

Practicing careful attention to the state of your mind can have enormours benefit to your wellbeing. Working 120 hours a week can be rewarding in one way, in another can be considerably bad for your health. Lots of money and lots of stress. How about relieving some of that stress

However you want to do this it is advised not to go out on Friday night and drink to relax. Your better bet is to find somewhere relaxing and soul stimulating. Relaxing with friends over div=nner; seeing a play or movie or concert;